Grammy Award winner Jill Scott talks with CNN's Tony Harris about "Why Did I Get Married Too" and interracial dating.
Jill Scott is beautiful, talented, and insightful. She voices what so many of us Black women think and feel. She is in no way displaying any type of racism. People who call her racist have no clear understanding of what that word means. If we want to see clear examples of "racism" we need look no further than the venomous reactions and behaviors associated with those who vehemently oppose the recent health care reform, from which most of them will highly benefit. There is nothing wrong with having cultural pride and wanting to fix centuries of problems and issues embedded into our collective psyche. We can share and intermingle with others, but we cannot be effective and strong in that if we have no true sense of self. We need not assimilate. There is no such thing as being color-blind. Love, itself, is not (color)blind. As Black women, women regarded as the least beautiful, least desirable, the last thing we need is that reinforcement coming from Black men. I think that's what she was getting at in why we often respond the ways we do. What about us? What about our success and our beauty? What about everything positive we have to offer?
Jill Scott is not a racist! Not once did she say anyhing derogatory about any other race. I agree w/her all the way! I'm just a bit surprised that she brought up the issue. Usually once African-Americans get successful they shy away from speaking about this sort of thing.I just hope she doesn't catch to much recoil from this.Either way there are alot of sisters behind her on this one!
I totally agree! No refutes, No ifs ands or buts. I whole heartedly agree.
What about us Black men who feel betrayed when Black women teach us to respect and regard all our women as queens only to get rejected as lame and corny when we don't have swag, and see even our educated sisters dating thuggish cats? Then when we shine, and Ice Grill G and OG Mudbone are locked up or fall off, then they wanna holla at us.
I don't know why people are painting it as if Jill was condemning interracial dating. It sounds to me that she was simply admitting (not proudly) why it still hurts BW when they see BM with WW.. Well said, props to her for having the courage and strength to admit black women's insecurities - what she and other BW fail to realize it that ALL RACES HAVE THESE INSECURITIES..
Do you think us black men don't feel "the wince" to see ALL of our beautiful BW in the media (Halle, Zoe Saldana, Sanaa Lathan, Paula Patton, Stacey Dash etc.) with WM? My white friends (all of which date BW) admit to feeling the "the wince" when they see pretty WW with BM as well.. Its about personal insecurity NO MATTER WHAT RACE YOU ARE.
The only difference is that BW have the LUXURY of scape-goating ALL of their PERSONAL issues on their male counterparts.. BW obnoxiously preach about their independence and strength - yet uses the "well, black men do this... well, black men do that.." defense EVERY TIME. White, Asian, and Hispanic women do not have this luxury of not being responsible for your own character traits and emotions..
Pretty American black women are so BOOSHIE and stuck-up they will date ANY white guy, but only date a black man if he is an Athlete or Entertainer or has some social status.. Black woman straighten, dye and put weave in their hair, then get mad when BM are attracted to WW and "sellout".. Only to high-five and applaud BW who sleep with WM do to pathetically ignorant hypocrisy and vengeful bitterness..
PEOPLE OF ALL RACES FEEL THIS "WINCE." Its a personal issue about a lack of confidence in the way the opposite sex of your race views you. Why do BW need an excuse for it like with everything else? The "wince" is personal insecurity, a weak-minded character FLAW yet BW claim entitlement to it. They carry around this bitterness and hate (by choice) and wonder why black men don't want them "must be the man's fault"..
BW don't realize THE WORLD (especially men) DOESN'T CARE wither your PERSONAL bitterness and insecurities are justified or not.. Wake up sistas. What real, honest, dignified, self-respecting, quality man OF ANY COLOR WOULD WANT AN INSECURE, SPITEFUL, BITTER, EXCUSE-MAKING WOMEN???
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