First Tiger Woods enters sex addiction rehab; now Jesse James is undergoing treatment for what his spokesman calls “personal issues.” The husband of Oscar-winning actress Sandra Bullock is the latest celebrity alleged to have had affairs with multiple women. According to the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health, an estimated 3 to 5 percent of Americans could fall into the category of having an addiction to sex.
But is sex addiction a real disease – or a cop out?
We want to hear what you think. We’ll share some of your comments on air in the CNN Newsroom, 11am ET — 1pm ET
I believe it is an attempt to 'redeem' themselves in the eyes of others.
Just because a person cheats on someone, it does not make them an addict. Face your issues and deal with them.
Why must we label things so that it removes accountability?
In this case (as well as tiger woods) why couldn't they simply say they made stupid mistakes, and IF they want to continue their marriage then go to couples counseling to address the issues cheating created.
labeling this as addiction, I think, cheapens the word
and one final thing, why do we continue to live vicariously through the lives of 'celebraties'? Is this Really news?
Man cheats on wife, in other news water is wet...
Where did "Accountability for you Actions" Go? When are we going to STOP giving people "Excuses" and START holding people Accountable!
“Personal issues” have NO business being labeled a "Disease" and as long as these "Issues" do not Violate or Infringe upon another`s Rights or Liberties, Then they should NOT be Anyone's Business.
This would be a better Society if we all minded our own business and did not have our noses up each others Butts!
I do believe that Nymphomania exists as a condition, however, I also acknowledge that people abuse the excuse as a means of justifying their actions and especially in Hollywood or rather celebrity relationships in general it is prevalent. Many stars stand to lose more if they ruin their marriage to the point of divorce so it would only make sense that they require more than the average Joe's excuse for cheating.
Stars, unlike the rest of us, suffer national embarassment and damages to their image which translates easily into damage on the professional level. While we may be frightened to death of our office affairs being the talk of the building for a while and taking a few months to blow over, some celebrities never get to live an affair down. There is no such thing as a private life for extremely public figures like celebrities, unfortinately. So when their personal lives take a hit, there is the potential for a major domino effect.
It's not addiction or a cop out sex is a God given craving that all creatures have it's just that some people are not verry good at keeping it under control especially when they get burned out on the same old song and dance people like this should stay single so they can mingle .
Anything that excites or pleases the body can become an addiction. However, it all starts with a process of errant thinking and bad choices. I believe that they had the choice to do right and chose to do wrong. Basically, rehab might be good, but it 's just a way for them to place the blame on the addiction, rather than accept it themselves. In other words, I agree with PFeller.
Let's STOP being politically correct and calling it "sex addiction". Let's call it what it is: ADULTERY. It is wrong, immoral, and these "stars" will one day answer for their "sex addiction".
Let's stop catering to these "stars" and stop being "politically correct". Let's call it for what it is: ADULTERY. Stop sugar coating it. It is WRONG!! S I N!!
After seeing the women... Addiction, really??? All of these are good-looking to very attractive women. Addicts dont care from whom or where they get their "fix". Remeber Bill Clinton? That was an addict. Hey Tony, If "sex addiction" is a disease and you go to a treatment center, is that considered healthcare, are we the people paying for that?
if yor a regular guy, it's called a facination. If you got the bucks, its called an addiction. Living in Atlanta
In my personal opinion, founded on a couple of decades of reading, there is no such medical entity as "sex addiction". The same is true of so-called "love addiction".
In some people, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) or similar personality patterns seem to play a role in repeated incidents of maladaptive behavior that they feel powerless to avoid or control. Medication can help a lot of these people.
However, the public statements of "sex addiction" advocates all too often reveal them as either psychological professionals looking for government funding in a new cottage industry, or simply every-day people looking for ways to cop out from responsibility for dealing with the consequences they've created. I am personally amazed at the explosion of so-called "Twelve Step Programs" in this area of psychological practice. Given that such programs rarely arrest the behavior more than temporarily, we might question whether they are in fact con games.
Also lost in all of this smoke and storm, is the possibility that some of those labeled as "sexually addicted" simply enjoy a lot more sex or affection than a sensually repressive society approves of. In our times, we have only to look at divorce rates to wonder if traditional notions of romantic love and monogamy are becoming outworn. To expect two people to first be attracted to one another at age 15, and then to remain sexually "faithful" until death at age 90 is at best unrealistic in a society as complex as ours. At worst, it is stark raving idiocy.
Give me a break – they aren't sex addicted, they are devious and power hungry. Jesse just liked scum bags for who knows what reason. Furthermore, no one is an angel so maybe there were marital problems other than the cheating between the couples??
i dont think it is a copout however i do think it is a very good excuse for many who really dont have an "addiction."
Sex addiction? Seriously? Didn't South Park already address this fake disease?
Sex addiction is a joke! it is a cover up for people who cant admit its their fault. Therefore, they blame it on a so called disease. Its like having a chocolate milk addiction. ITS NOT POSSIBLE
Sex addiction is not necessarily a "cop-out"... our instincts are to reproduce.. so sticking with one partner goes against everything... However who cares.. its peoples personal lives i dont really believe this is newsworthy.. so what these celebrities like sex... WHO DOESNT!?
There is no such thing as 'sex addiction'! It is a rich guy's cop out. A poor guy is just a slimeball, not an addict.
It should really be called "sex arrogance".
These men (it's mostly men) just think they are entitled to have sex with whoever they like, at the drop of a hat, and without re4gard for any commitments they have made.
They are arrogant, smug, full of themselves, and in a word, jerks!
Cop out not an addiction...character, honor, devotion and not ever wanting to do anything to hurt the other person should prevent a truely good person from repeated cheating – or once for that matter. If someone truely was a sex addict wouldn't their significant other be the first to know??
I don't think there's such a thing, anyone famous seems to get away with cheating once they go through therapy
I think sex addiction is a real thing! I'm definitely a sex addict, but then again I'm also a twenty-four year old man...but that doesn't mean I cheat on my wife. This new obsession with sex addiction is a cop out, it's not a disease that needs treatment and is just an excuse for people not exercising self control.
I think sex addiction is code for "huge ego ."
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If sex addiction is a disease, then most of every human on Earth has it, specially pornstars. We're not looking at the real issue here, which is not sex addiction but being unfaithful to your partner, because you can have sex addiction with your own partner and not have to cheat.
The two guys being discussed in my view have both mistaken an arrogant lack of character for a "disease". I for one am not falling for this.
Sex is sex, everyone needs it, some people wantt it more often than others. It effects different people defferently. Addiction? Maybe. Disease? NO!
What we have named sex addiction is a conflict between humans attempt to replace nurture with nature. Our attempt to be more human than the animals we really are leads to our animal instinct sometime taking over. A monogamous relationship is a biological nonsense.
Oh, I'm sure sex addiction exists, just as I'm sure that people are legitimately hospitalized for "exhaustion." I'm also sure that some of the celebrities that have claimed to suffer from these conditions are simply trying to rehabilitate their image.
Instead of calling it an addiction, why not call it Solomons Syndrome, he is the first recorded sex addict. Please tell researchers to stop given men and women and excuse not to be faithful to their spouses.
Ha ha ha what a cop out. just like the losers that use i watched to much porn that's why i rape, or my mommy beat me that's why i kill people. Law is a JOKE and so are the sentences people get! Tiger and Jesse made their beds now they should lay in em Ho's and all..
I am a sex addict. it took me 30 years of screwing up my life before I reached the point where I could admit that to myself. If you were able to hear the stories of the men and women in some of the twelve step sex addiction meetings I have attended you wouldn't have any doubts that it is a real addiction. Some of the things we do to ourselves and the ones we love are so crazy no sane person without an addiction would do them.
I have never had a problem with alcohol or drugs but I've heard many sex addicts who are also alcoholics or drug addicts describe their sex addiction as the most difficult of all to overcome.
Sexual addiction is a cop out. Cheating is a weakness and lack of good character.
Tony, Tony, Tony. Have you noticed the women out there? They are beautiful and sexier now then ever before...not just their physical looks but their intelligence. Dude it's just about impossible to avoid a tempting woman. Get it? It's not men that are sex crazed...it's the women!!! A married man having an affair usually involves a women... and usually that women is sexy and has no quams about having sex with a married man.... a lot of times they prefer married men...I know...I'm a victom....!!!!
What kind of feelings are involved here?
I'm not a Psychologist but i know what Moderation is, and if being unable to moderate a desire for something is an addiction then it's an addiction, But if there's an unwillingness to moderate or even try, that's not a disease.
Sex addiction is real and sadly, it is fueled by dozens of prurient sex hookup sites like Adult Friend Finder and xxxmatch.com. The true victims are the partners of the addicts. We are unwittingly exposed to disease and emotionally scarred by their heartless betrayals.
THIS A BIG COP OUT!!!! Both men knew exactly what they were doing. And I'm beginning to think this true with all men....WHEN THE CATS AWAY(wives or girlfriends) THE RATS WILL PLAY!!!
Honestly, who doesn’t like sex? Almost everyone, to a certain degree, is addicted to sex. We think about it and lust over others who aren’t our significant others. That’s not wrong, it’s human nature. What’s wrong is saying that “I had to cheat on you because I am addicted to sex”. Psychological labels need to be used for legitimate disorders—and adultery is not a disorder.
Sex addiction is a disease just as homosexuality is. Denying them or taking them out of the DSM, per political pressure, does an injustice to those who are affected and thus they don't pursue the necessary help they so need. Denial is a significant aspect of anyone suffering from a disease, those who admit they have a problem and genuinely pursue help with their problem should be admired.
Sex addiction is cop out, its a bad habit .if you're addicted to sex then this part of your relationship should be fantastic with your wife or girlfriend.I don't want to sound sexist but these men don't want to admit that they just find pleasure having sex with different women no matter how committed they are.
I don't believe in a sickness called "sex addict" because the purpose of having sex used to be because you were in love with this individual and wanted to have a family with. (till death ). You make vows to one another in the eyes of God and through that love another life is created. If some people think its a sickness, the only sickness is the Physical Feelings one considers when planning with the wrong "tool." Sex might as well be a sport now because the Vows don't mean nothing to the majority of people getting married the past 20yrs plus. Alot of these "unfaithful" individuals have beautiful, sexy, rich wives/husbands and still cheat with other people. People get married for money/fame and that still is not enough. Our society promotes infidelity and sex.
As a person who has spent 10 years in a sexual recovery program I can say, yes it is real, but it's grossly unfair to ask if it's a copout based on these two people's situations. Please don't use Tiger and Jesse as poster boys for this debate. They have way more money than the average addict so in some ways they become extreme examples if in fact that is the root of their problem. Also, the fact that they "may" have a disease doesn't absolve them. Nothing can absolve them overnight. I think it's important to say that these programs are poorly named in some ways. They are more of a intimacy disorder and the addiction is to the "rush" that can be had from compulsive sexual behavior.
Sex addition is a problem in our country. Women are being paraded in our daily news papers like cheat meat in a market place.
It may be an addiction but that's no excuse.
Committment and marraige go hand in hand. You're promising your spouse to remain faithful, in front of your church and God.
Both men and women cheat. It's wrong and it's a game changer.
Once you lose the trust of your partner, it's hard to ever get that back.
Rob a bank, get busted.
Drive drunk, bet busted.
Cheat, get a lawyer.
In my day, there was a simpler term for this:
illness my a–!
True sexual addiction is not an excuse for selfish behavior. Sexual addiction is a uncontrollable, progressive, homicidal form of insanity. Not surprisingly, last night two of Larry King's guests displayed ignorance of this deadly addiction. Late in life, I, a widow, without a prior clue, married a wealthy widower, highly intelligent, educated and widely respected. Within two weeks, I was exposed to a past that stunned me. My new husband, once a high governmental appointee on overseas duty, had abused a prostitute, an exquisite model, and while his arrest was covered up, he was fired. He was hospitalized in a lock-down sanitarium for less than a year and was discharged without being cured. Undeniable proof exists that throughout his entire life my late husband experienced bouts of progressively dangerous insanity, during which he actually became an entirely different person with no memory of his behavior. In the end, he was spending 16 to 20 hours a day hunting for younger and younger girls to become his victims. Evidence exists that before his death, he may have killed. Sexual addiction is real, vastly misunderstood, incurable insanity.
Much like after a childish tirade that may include racial, sexist, or homophobic rants, celebrities are quick to to blame alcohol. There are real alcoholics in this world and then theres just bigots, there are really people who have realationships collapse because of sex addiction and then theres Tiger Woods.
Sex addiction gives unfaithful people an excuse for their actions, while sex rehab provides them with an easy way out, just like Tiger.
re: sex addiction: Cowardice is what it is. That being stated, keep in mind the wacky box of crap that is the society we've created and within whose rules we must dance. Something about "sauce for the goose..."
Just watch the southpark episode. It is alien wizards casing a spell.
I wonder if they are going to make another one for jesse.
Saying these people are addicted to sex is the same as saying they are addicted to breathing.
If you are married, it is ADULTERY, plain and simple. Let's stop sugar coating it. It is S I N.
i dont think if you cheat your an addict but i think you can get pretty much addicted to anything.. such as people who get addicted to food. but if they want to stop having sex and they feel as if they cant then yes its an addiction. also some poeple may just use this as an excuse to forgive them for what they have done
If I was a sex addict, I would be making love to my wife as many times as possible, not to other women.
I definitely think that we wouldn't be hearing as much about Tiger's "sex addiction" if he were single. Also, I think there continues to be a double standard which is different for single men and single women.
Stop the lies. The doctors just want to keep their jobs. There's no such thing. It's just that mainstream is always looking to crucify someone on some foolish moral compass so as to prove that they are more deserving of their status. Tiger's situation would have best been handled in a more private manner.
This is a "COP OUT"! It only applies to affluent, weatlhy, upper social stratum males. If you are in poverty; 'IT DOSE'NT MATTER WHAT COLOR YOU ARE"! If you're married it'll ruin everything; if you're single local justice systems will put a sexual devient label on you and put you in jail. This is a prime example of the pendelum swaying on the side of the rich and once agin; those in poverty and just barely out of it are getting screwed.. (SO WHAT ELSE IS NEW)?
Cop Out. Men have been cheating since the beginning of time...and will continue to cheat...sorry ladies.. "its our nature." It's not that we don't love you...we love all women.
So......therefore, is every person who commits crime, a crime addict? Is every person who drives too fast, a speed addict? I find it interesting that seemingly EVERY celeb or politician who gets caught cheating is suddenly an addict. PATHETIC. How about man-up and admit the truth....it'll give them more credibility.
Our society has an issue with this. People are not overweight because they eat too much and most of it crap. It is because they have a disease.
People in any level of society do not what to take the blame for anything.
It seems that whenever anyone with a bundle of money or fame or both gets into trouble, the "trouble" becomes a "disease" and the perpetrator is bundled off to "rehab." A poor guy who partakes of the same "affliction" is condemned and scorned. Sex addiction is a sad, sorry joke. It does not exist.
Comparing Tiger to Jeter is unfair. If Tiger wanted to live the life he not so secretively chose, he should not have gotten married. I'll bet my bottom dollar that once Jeter gets married he will be as good in the marriage as he is on the field.
Any person who uses sex to get a high, rather than working his problems out with his partne,r has an addition. I'm curious how many people come foreward before they get caught.
Sex addiction is believable when you are staring it straight in the face. When a high ranking professional woman with a healthy loving family leaves work 4-6 times a day to hook up with random strangers, pick up prostitutes and sleeps with coworkers disregarding her safety, health, life, career, and family – that's sex addiction. These celebrities I don't know enough about. But it seems like they might just be selfish with egos out of control! But we make them like that.
Sexual addiction is the latest "disease" advocated by people like Dr. Drew who can use it as a means of gaining more airtime for themselves. The reality is that these men have normal sex drives and their fame provides them much greater opportunities than the "average Joe" to fool around. When you're traveling the world like Tiger and experiencing women all over the world throwing themselves at you with no effort required on your part, or you have an absent wife like Jesse and somewhat of a cultish following of fans, you're going to take advantage of these opportunities if you're not strongly committed to your spouse.
What self confident individual is really concerned about Tiger Woods sex addiction? I believe that I clearly speak for 298,000,000 other Americans and including myself the number is 299,000,000.
Have a great rest of the day.
Sex addiction is just like other addictions, that has consequences. It is a disease of a sort, not a cop out to make excuse for behavior.
It has different components. One can be a sex addict, who is addicted to the physical act of sex and the orgasm, and others can be addicted to 'sex and love' combined. There is an insatiable need to be loved that is actualized by the act of sex. Intimacy and kissing are major factors, not just the act of sex.
My husband is an alcoholic and has been for about 8 years. He has been to rehab 3 times and to this day he still drinks. He knows he is an alcoholic he just can't stop. He has learned to keep it from getting out of control. I believe there is a thing as sexual addiction. If you can't stop or your always thinking about when you can have sex again your addicted. I see the only solution is going to rehab just like an alcoholic and hope for a turn around.
Sex is a real addiction. The act of sex stimulates the mind and the "addict" wants that feeling Euphoria every moment. Also, for men its not just sex they are after. Its the chase and the mounted trophy that makes it so much fun.
P.S. Tiger is the man! Too bad He was cought I'm sure He could of done more.
It's not an addition it's natural, tiger was only being a man. If he did not have fame and money this would not be an issue. Leave this along and talk about the soldiers in Afghanistan and the job market.
No, I don't buy it. With drugs and alcohol, there are definite physical symptoms, which are clearly seen when a person attempts to stop taking the substance. Sex Addiction is a lame excuse for a simple lack of control. Our society seems to want to excuse behavior that stems from a lack of control by calling it an "addiction" or an "illness". This only enables more people to use this excuse.
It is a choice – a BAD CHOICE. Plain and simple.
If you are a truly healthy human being, you will desire to make love every day or almost every day. If you do not have this desire, you are probably not healthy.
It seems to me, the men and women with multiple partners are looking for variety. That is not a sin but it does not fit in with our cultured civilization.
In the old days we used to say "Sow your wild oats before you marry." Tiger should have done that. We all should do that.
I believe people can genuinely be addicted to sex. But it appears to me this trait appears in individuals you'd least expect. I say anything could be addicting, if defined as something that interferes with you're functioning in daily routine/lifestyle.
Are these guys saying having lots of sex with your wife is not an addiction, but having sex outside your marriage, is an addiction? Please. Is that the new excuse for cheating.
I think that sex addiction becomes a mental illness when a person starts to spend thousand of dollars on their addiction. The person becomes selfish and reckless and cares very little about his/her family, a perfect example is Tiger Woods.
Sex addiction is a very real thing, but these men (Tiger, Jesse) certainly do not have it. They're just everyday cheaters who with the success and fame they have earned, have been able to sleep with so many women. Where as, if they were average Joes These women wouldn't give them the time of day. Especially these two, who are let's be honest..... not our "sexiest men alive"
A sex addition is real like any other addiction but with Woods it is a cop out. Addiction is about getting the fix and moving on to the next one, not picking and choosing which ones you like best. An addict’s behavior is out of control and Woods is a control freak. Tiger Woods has not suffered, he just got caught.
I think sex addiction is a total cop out. True addicts , whether it's heroin, oxycontin, alcohol etc, usually end up unable to function in society. They destroy their loved ones, careers, their own health and sometimes end up dead. They are usually unhappy and ashamed of the lives they are leading but can't stop. Tiger, Jesse James and others were perfectly happy until they got caught. They are used to getting what they want and thought they would get away with it. Now they need to find an excuse for their rotten behavior, how about just plain rotten character, lousy morals, and a sense of entitlement.
If these celebrities were in love with their wives, then they'd be making love to them as often as possible. They're not sex addicts, they're cheater addicts.
"Addiction" is characterized as loss of control of a behavior. Although people become physically dependent on substances such as alcohol and drugs (prescription or "street") – the noticeable problem is in their behavior which has gone out of control because of the addiction.
The same problem happens with gambling, shopping, porn, and , yes, sex. The addict is no longer in control of their use of the substance – or participation in the behavior – and often lose everything that matters. Ask a gambling addict, shopping addict, sex addict, hoarder if they have control over their problem. The problem is perpetuated in their brain chemistry – and abstinence the only "cure".
Lauren Carter – Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Alcohol & Drug Counselor
I believe it could be an addiction......and a cop-out,.....
I was married to a sex addict for years[????]......they usually have other psychological problems along with the addiction......they lack empathy and don't have much of a conscience [obviously]......In has alot to do with self-worth I think......when I was told there was no cure I got my tail out of there......
its an excuse to cheat because we have choices to make. there are many who want to cheat on their love one because they find someone hot, but they dont because there is something called self control.people make mistake but its not disease.
Growing up I had sex on my mind all the time, as well as being addicted to porn and self gratification, I had heard a quote saying the average male has a thought of sex every 7 seconds, I think I thought of sex every 3 seconds, It also seemed to me that other piers my age were not as occupied with sex as I was.
Now that I am much older and have had some prostate problems including a prostate procedure that has completely eliminated my sexual desire and drive to "0" it leads me to believe that men have a general area of sexual drive and desire and some men have more or less of a sexual drive and desire
"Addictions" is a convenient word for those experiencing the abuse of drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, overeating. Convenient because they increase $ for so-called rehab centers who are treating people for nothing more than a character weakness.
Cop out?Society creates the crime and criminals commit them.
There CANNOT be any such thing as sex addiction. Sex is a bodily function like any other; these men are obsessed with their own reflections in the mirror and sex with other women gives them the excuse to primp and pose and throw money around. Addicts lack the will to curb their own appetites, these famous "addicts" have the discipline to build careers and fortunes and want everyone to believe they don't have the will to keep their pants zipped. They need better writers.
When someone shows up at one of those "sex clinics" that hasn't been caught cheating, I will believe.
COP OUT! It is only an excuse to cheat on someone you are with and get them to come back to you. It is pathetic and they are pathetic.
I retract my last input.... Here is a much more simple explanation for their "addiction".
Rich and famous or poor and lonely. Men will have the same thoughts no matter what situation they are in.
Sex addiction.....bull. It is nothing more than TESTOSTERONE POISONING.
Sex addiction is a viable disease unfortunately there are people who do use the illness as a cop out.
I think it could be both a disease AND a cop out. People often become addicts through their own bad choices. Their addiction needs to be dealt with, but they also have to take responsibility for the actions that got them to that point in the first place.
Complete cop-out! Men are genetically inclined to 'date' as many women as possible.
Women have evolved to be attracted to the strongest males i.e power, money, fame = stronger genes.
Its nature, its how we have evolved...
Let's see just how many cheating husbands alive today can use that excuse?
Governor Mark Sandford, John Edwards (cheated on wife when wife was recovering from cancer), Bill Clinton, John McCain (met Cindy 1979 – asked for divorce from wife Carol Feb 1980 – married Cindy May 1980), Newt Gringrich (ask for divorce while wife recovering from cancer), Rudy Guiliani, and the lists goes on.
Unless you have experienced the compulsion of not being able to stop the risky behavior, you will have little chance to understand the mind of a sexually addicted person.
Sex addition, even if it has some sort of scientific validity, is still a complete cop-out. We don't call people who beat their spouse mere "beating addicts," and serial killers don't get the opportunity to do the same either. Not that these activities are equal, but we need to hold ourselves accountable.
If you don't believe sex addiction is real, then you must also believe drug addiction is not real. There is no difference in the brain.
Let me ask you a question. How many man or woman had sex with only one partner in US during his life time(%)? Then judge the community and make your decesion. Can you?
The term sex addiction is a sugar-coated cover-up. The real reasoning behind the behavior is that these type of folks refuse to control themselves, they lack self-respect, they don't see their own bodies as invaluable temples and they are lonely even when they are not alone.
Sex addiction is a term for the rich, as they can aford treatment( an excuse) and cheating is for all others,
Its not just the rich men of the world that cheat on their spouses. I am sure there are many "rich" women cheating on their men, but the men are not coming out with it. With all the women in both the Jesse James and Tiger cases they have been looking for either fame or money... If Lady Gaga or Brittney Spears had 10 men come out saying they slept with them would it be a giant story?
Thank you. I really do not care about these people. There really aren't even people, just entertainment.
Please have CNN contact me regarding bulling in school. I have 5 children in Texas that no longer attend public schhol because of bulling. The schcool district would not do anything or provide support to my children untired till they where emotionally
If the activity is acceptable conduct before marriage, how does marriage convert the same activity into an illness? It's an illogical assertion. This is nothing more than a celebrity cop-out for being unable to maintain their marriage vows.
In the early 70's they would always call it "sex maniac" as a joke. It was not until I married that I came to believe it was not something to laugh about and I knew it was not something that he could or would stop.Even though he tried to hide it I knew he was doing other forms of "gratification", even as soon as minutes after having sex with him.In those years there was very little open conversation between couples. Sex was something you just didn't talk about with your husband so there was no "venting' about problems in that area.Eventually it led to other women, him not staying home, and then a divorce. I do know he still loved me and I could see it when I called it quits.I know his father had this problem and his own son has an addiction to "porn".For singles it goes unnoticed, but married, it's a sickness that sometimes isn't confirmed until it goes too far.
Oh there is sex addiction. But everyone that is overweight does not have a thyroid problem. They have a rocky road problem.
People like excuses for their actions. They do not like responsibility.
I think sex addiction is really a huge cop out for bad behavior but more importantly dishonesty. The truth is all human beings have a level of sexual desire or need but most don't totally reveal their deepest desires to the one they should feel most safe, their wife or husband. Maybe thinking they will be rejected or thought of as disgusting. I think men want a lady in public and a naughty girl in the bedroom but will never admit this so they turn to porn or cheating with someone who can and will be naughty with no consequences unless caught. People go though different phases of being highly sexual to no desire at all creating an imbalance in their sexual life which in turn leaves their mate unfulfilled. The trick is to work together as mates and learn to connect to bring this aspect of their life in harmony. Communication is the key because men you might just have exactly what you're chasing and be surprised to find that women have just as much sexual freak but are also afraid to let it be known.
That said, once a guy crosses that line he's toast unless he has permission to roam freely!!!!
"If the activity is acceptable conduct before marriage, how does marriage convert the same activity into an illness? It's an illogical assertion."
You don't have to be married before it's considered an illness.
That's an illogical assertion.
If it's causing you harm and you continue to have an overwhelming drive to continue doing it anyway knowing that, it's an addiction.
A majority of men and women wouldn't fornicate if they were to read and understand 1 Corinthians 7:2-5. Let us stop placing God on the back burner and then wonder why our socity is in trouble.
There's too much hypocrisy about this for such a simple question.
If a man cheats on his wife, we've got to decide whether it's a disorder or the fact that he's simply a scoundrel. When a woman cheats on her husband, it's "Go girl!". On top of that, no one seems to mention what we're supposed to think when both participants are married and cheating on their spouses, who themselves may be cheating.
Tony I am not that good looking but. In the 35 years I was married ( she past away 2 years ago ) I had sex with well over 100 different woman. I did this because it was a challenge to me.
It can be an addiction, but addicts can't hold jobs or function in relationship. For the other men, is a matter of sex drive. It is VERY hard for men to stay monogamous if the opportunity to stray presents itself. Unless they fear serious consequences, most men will stray. Don't blame them, that's the way God made them. If you have a gripe, take it up with Him.
saying men have a sex addiction is like saying women have a spending money addiction. It is just part of their nature.
Research regarding 'what' we can potentially become addicted to suggests that we can become addicted to almost anything. However, I don't think that the issue with 'addiction' is as much an issue with 'what' we become addicted to as much as 'why' we are addicted. People like Tiger and Jesse could be using sex to achieve a sense of inner-peace. Studies have suggested that things like video games activate the same receptors in our brains that certain illegal drugs activate. For these men, sex has become the easiest thing to achieve that feeling. Thus, we shouldn't assess and treat what someone is addicted to. We should assess and treat why individuals become addicted.
Sex addiction is a cop out. If you are married and you need sex then have it with your wife, why cheat. If you need sex with more than one women then don't get married or become a mormon.
How about a story on the back log and up coming college grads that will not find a job or those who have been looking and have NOT found anything in their field of study. You know these grads are not counted as unemployed and the numbers are huge. The only time they are counted is when they loose their min wage job and have to look for an other min wage job. This will be the second huge class of college students that will find nothing out there for them, how long will this go on?
This is with regards to recent bullying case in Mass. and more,
We should not go after principals, superintendents or students who bully. We should go after the producers, directors and TV stations who make and air all these violent and amoral cartoons, films, programs, and video games. It is totally out of control.
Furthermore, I believe that this issue (above) plays a big role in our weakening economy (crises) and social problems.
There must be a committee or an organization out there to regulate the content of these movies, cartoons, programs, and video games for kids and teens. Also, to control the TV stations (e.g. not to show R rated commercials in the middle of G rated program).
Otherwise, we should expect more of these incidents and worse.
Men give love for sex
Women give sex for love ( or money)
Sex it is part of life and the more successful you are the more you can get. Why? Because the women want your success. Damn man, the women know thes people are married with kids. They do not care about the families they want the money! Men have urges, throught history women were the keepers of the gates.
Men give love for sex
Women give sex for love (or money)
What about the women. They knew about the wife and child. They did it anyway. They thought they could be the new wife. Studies show women send messages to the man saying it is ok.
For a long time women were the keeps of the gates. Now they just leave the gates unlocked. Why get married?
For those that are married, and kent, what if your spouse does not give it up. You have to stay faithful but she uses it as a tool.
I say its a cop out! There is no such thing in this world as a sex addiction that makes you want to go out and cheat on your spouse, you may have an addiction to masturbation or porn then those type of things would be a sex addiction but to cheat on your spouse if your married and then say after you get caught cheating oh I have an addiction to sex is just a cop out, it allows the person to not have to be responsible or take the blame for what happened, its easier to say that you have a sex just like Tiger AKA "Cheetah" did! We all know Tiger is wrong for what he did and guess what Tiger your don't have a sex addiction your just a disgusting pig!
Scott Stodden (Freeport,Illinois)
It's a copout, they are just cheating pigs.
Look, people can be addicted to anything, literally anything. My question is...Tiger's situation was blasted all over CNN looped every half hour, why not Jesse..is CNN playing favorites or down-playing one over another. What's the standard in the media or maybe there isn't one? The only difference is one is African-American and one White. Yes, I know no one wants to hear that but it is rather in your face. Everything negative about the African-American male is blown out of proportions, highlighted to the Nth degree, and held up for the world to see. No, I don't condon what either man did, however it is a part of the human condition found in both men. I don't advocate sensationalism I'm sure you guys will handle all of that you can get your hands on and then some. How about turning the spot light on what it takes to sustain a health marriage in America today not to mention in hollywood. Believe it or not the American public would like to hear from those who have made it 20, 30, and 50+ years marriage.
Can we have fair play in the media please,
Maurice Taplin, Jacksonville, NC
there is a no such thing as sex addicition this is a fad using a diagnosis with rehab as an excuse for reprehensible behavior tiger woods, john edwards, jesse james should just come out and say they had sex because they like it and accept responsibility these are cowards to their wives,family and the public
I say its a cop out! There is no such thing in this world as a sex addiction that makes you want to go out and cheat on your spouse, you may have an addiction to masturbation or porn then those type of things would be a sex addiction, but to cheat on your spouse if your married and then say after you get caught cheating oh I have an addiction to sex is just a cop out, it allows the person to not have to be responsible or take the blame for what happened.
Are you guys still reporting on THEIR private lives?? Don't you think you have more important things to report about? They cheated on their wives, it is between them & their wives. Why does the media consistently put their business out like this? I find it rude and imposing on their privacy, I don't care if they are in the limelight! It is none of the publics business what superstars/athletes do behind closed doors. Move on to more important matters, such as bullying, child molesters, rapists, and so on. I'm so glad I have a remote control to change the channel when media like yourselves report on petty stuff like this. It is none of your/our business!!!
"Sex addiction".......a euphemism for "bad behavior "
Personal issues are exactly that and have no place in wasting main stream media time. Tabloids are for that garbage. Main Stream has alot more serious stuff it should be reporting.
well as americans we try to be politically correct and we do not pick on the sick, its a great cop out for people in the public eye to enter rehab. On the other hand some people need more sex than others! marriage and religion are an institution not a human trait.
Can you tell me about your first kiss?
Do you remember any songs that you used to sing to her/him? Can you sing them now?
I can't believe wtih all of the diseases going around people still carry on like nothing is going on.cheaters really put the people they are with lives in danger. I know of people that have diseases they can't get rid of from that life style. kind of scary to me.Thats why I'm no dog I live right.Hence you lie down with dogs you get up with fleas.
Rehabs are just excuses for bad behavior and for doctors and counselors to make money. If you screw around and cheat with everybody you go to rehab, if you're a drunk, they call it a sickness and you go to rehab, if you're a dope addict, you're sick and you go to rehab. Nobody takes responsibility for bad behavior anymore.
Most hated chore on the chore list?
Peope cheat everyday, I know you are going to say , " Not me ". Well you have probably done something in your life that you are not proud of only difference is you are not playing a sport or in the public spotlight. We keep forgetting that we are only people prone to do stupid things we regret. This were that verus in bible states, " Let ye without sin cast the first stone ".
You accepted literally: "Hundreds of Millions of Dollars" based on a legal contract that you would adhere to an ethics clause.
Since you violated the contract, will you return the money, or do you think you can re-neg AND act as though your issues are indeed private when you accepted hundreds of millions of dollars under the condition that you would remain ethical?
What's next, will you kick the ball out of the rough when no one is looking and hope for the same favorable media attention that fails to focus on the contractual side of the issue? What right do the rules of golf have to tell Tiger that he cannot kick the ball? It's not like it's against the law or anything.
Addicted to sex?? Pul-lease...
Tony, my question is for you,
Yes Tiger's return to golf is newsworthy, glad to hear it. I'm a fan of Tiger, and love to play golf. But, on a day after four bombs exploded around a US consulate in Afghanistan, isn't that much more important, and significant to the future of your viewers? Is the Taliban making another comeback? Do we need another surge? What does it mean for our economy? Al Qaeda? etc. I can hear all I'm interested in re: Tiger in about 30 seconds. But as much as I love golf, my future doesn't depend on him. It does depend on what's happening in Afghanistan.
I believe that sex addiction is a misnomer ,and should be characterized as a behavioral trait, not an illness. The person,in this case, (Tiger Woods ) , needs in-depth phsycological counseling, performed by a noted and acomplished psychologist of the current era and mores, who can trace this behavior back to childhood,where most habits have their beginning,or where lack of education on the subject is not given.In Tiger's case, by his own admission, his childhood was mostly golf mentoring from age 3 or 4 ,and a short teenage envolvment with the opposite sex , and lack of empahsis by his parent's on how to treat women . I think that anyone so strictly raised would ,at some point, loose control as Tiger did , and makeup for lost time" so to speak. A trained doctor could find this progression and help immensely,instead of group therapy.
I love, love, love the new Tiger Woods ad! It is profound and Tiger did not have to open his mouth to say a word. I wish I had more videos of my parents speaking words of comfort to me during difficult times.
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