U.S. Senator Scott Brown of Massachusetts revealed he was sexually abused in his book "Against All Odds," which came out this week. The disclosure spotlights the difference between the way boys and men handle violations compared to girls and women. CNN's Don Lemon spoke with David Lisak, a member of the group 1in6.org and an abuse survivor himself, about why male victims tend to not expose the sexual offenses against them.
When young men are violated by older men and women...it is most often in an atmosphere such as a church, a camp, an environment where 'God' is present. The faith and belief in adults which put them in this environment without knowing the authorities...acts as a wall of fear. The 'other' crimes against children...are from abductors and those who have no connection to society.
It is crucial to know where your children are and who is teaching/guiding/caring for them. If they spend any amount of time within an environment such as one described...DO A BACKGROUND CHECK. Just because your child is in a 'religious'/educational' environment...doesn't mean he or she is safe.
If your gut tells you to check it out...Do it. It is your job as a parent.
Actually, about 39% of all cases of child molestation are perpetrated by a family member, and 56% by a friend or acquaintence of the family. It isn't so much about knowing who your child is with as it is about teaching your child that it is ok to tell an adult no, that if someone does something to make them uncomfortable they should tell an adult they trust; teach them the proper names of the body parts. Research shows that children who know the correct terminology are less likely to be targeted. Make conversation about "safe touch" a regular occurrance, and start it young, so your kids don't find it uncomfortable they find it normal. Let your child know it's ok to set their own boundaries. If they haven't seen Aunt Sally in a year and Aunt Sally wants a hug but your child doesn't want to give one, let your child make that decision and don't force him/her to hug her.
Try being in the Military in the 80's you dare not report it. I have lived in silence and when I did go help at the VA just a few year ago I still was made to feel like I was 20 in the Navy 2 men would have killed me if some one did not come a long and both of them where in the Navy to.
Scott you are so strong finally a leader! You really are a great person keep fighting!
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